Perhaps I am being too nitpicky, fair enough. Personally, I'd still rather entertain shades of gray, then turn into a bigot against people I think are bigoted.

Perhaps I am being too nitpicky, fair enough. Personally, I'd still rather entertain shades of gray, then turn into a bigot against people I think are bigoted. I'm interested in your distinction "sufficiently opposed to gays marrying to spend money on it". This has turned up quite a few times in these threads. Apparently merely being opposed to gays marrying is, like, unfortunate, but doing anything about it crosses the line to absolutely insufferable. Are you saying this? Then what's the point of being "allowed" to have an opinion some people don't like, if actually doing anything about it is "wrong"? Is it the money that makes it bad? Trying to convince others to your viewpoint? Any action besides just voting? Is voting against gays marrying worse than just thinking to yourself that they shouldn't? This may again be nitpicking, but I'm not trying to argue, just wondering where people draw the lines.