Childbirth hurts. Does that mean it's bad and no-one should ever do it? Lots of sports hurt! I suspect the OP used BDSM because many view it as "perverted", as

Childbirth hurts. Does that mean it's bad and no-one should ever do it? Lots of sports hurt! I suspect the OP used BDSM because many view it as "perverted", as "bad sex", as "something people shouldn't do". The hell with that. All consenting sex amoung adults in private is fine and ethical and normal.