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This reminds me of the idea of Radical Honesty. Here's a good feature on it: http://www.esquire.com/features/honesty0707 http://www.esquire.com/features/honesty
by Magi604 13y ago
This reminds me of the idea of Radical Honesty. Here's a good feature on it: http://www.esquire.com/features/honesty0707 http://www.esquire.com/features/honesty0707
- ebiester 13y agoI never liked this, because there is a way to tell someone the truth with grace. The canonical example: "Does this make me look fat?" The answer is "That cut doesn't flatter you." It's honest, but it isn't harsh. Further, instead of encouraging vulnerability, it masks vulnerability behind an aggressive facade. I'd prefer Brene Brown's approach to honesty, myself.
- agumonkey 13y agoI always balance full truth with consequences, no need to claim everything you think is true if it breaks everybody down (unless it's for their own good).
- danieltillett 13y agoExactly - speak the truth, but don't go out of your way hurt people.
- chrisbennet 13y agoI tell people the truth with humor. Examples: Wife: "Does this make me look fat?" Me: doot doot diddiddit doot doot.. (circus music which is our code for "Circus fat." Once upon a time super fat people were rare enough to qualify as circus attractions i.e. the Fat Man/Woman.) Wife: "Does this look trashy?" Me: "Well I like it but I think everyone else will think it looks kinda slutty." Wife: "What do you think of this? (Wearing insulated underwear as a top. It's a Maine thing) Me: (In a fashion runway voice) "It's the look that says Trailer Park."