> Friends, close friends, seem like they're "supposed" to be a bond like family: someone you're always there for in good times and bad. I don't know about that

> Friends, close friends, seem like they're "supposed" to be a bond like family: someone you're always there for in good times and bad. I don't know about that. I don't want my happiness to come purely from people sacrificing their own. That'd be a horrifying way to live. I want people to support me, to a certain extent, in bad times, but I don't want to ruin their lives or drag them down with me in any significant way. Your friend has a shitty week? Sure, it'd be an ass hole thing to cut her out. Your friend is depressed for many years? At some point you've got to start thinking about yourself. At some point I'd want people to start thinking about themselves. On reflection, I don't think my concept of close friendship is someone who's always there for you. It's an equal, someone who's responsible for their own happiness and finds life richer for sharing it with me.