I've found there are two particular thoughts that need to occur for the "motivation to improve and better myself" to manifest itself. 1) honest love for onesel

I've found there are two particular thoughts that need to occur for the "motivation to improve and better myself" to manifest itself. 1) honest love for oneself; a belief that bettering oneself is not a completely selfish goal, but actually helps everyone and everything else in your life that you care about (insofar as you interact with them) 2) an honest belief that energy spent on self-improvement is effective; if I try to change myself in this way or that and am unsuccessful, it makes the next attempt much harder to get started. just my two cents.