It's not tough at all, just stop trying to shoehorn the quantum into things like waves and particles, they aren't both; they're neither. Calling them waves and

It's not tough at all, just stop trying to shoehorn the quantum into things like waves and particles, they aren't both; they're neither. Calling them waves and particles is just trying to cram macro world concepts into places they don't belong because it's easier to understand that way. Quantum behavior isn't like anything we know and thus can't be related to what we know without using bad metaphors. Watch Feynman explain the behavior of magnets and pretty much makes the same point when someone asks if fields are like rubber bands. The wave particle duality is just a bad metaphor for quantum behavior. Quantum behavior is its own thing.