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No, it's not a fine line at all. There is a huge chasm between ogling someone undertaking physical activity and excessively avoiding them. You probably behave t
by oneeyedpigeon 13y ago
No, it's not a fine line at all. There is a huge chasm between ogling someone undertaking physical activity and excessively avoiding them. You probably behave toward your male colleagues in a way that would fit neatly somewhere between these two extremes. Is it particularly a US issue, this inability to behave like a grown-up at work? In the UK, in my experience, men and women tend to work together, on an equal footing, with no problem whatsoever.
- jjoonathan 13y ago> There is a huge chasm between ogling someone undertaking physical activity If anyone -- attractive man, unattractive man, attractive woman, unattractive woman -- started hula-hooping in the middle of the office I would expect people to stare. Not because it's sexual, but because it's peculiar. The gap between "stare" and "ogle" is hardly objective, let alone a "chasm."
- oneeyedpigeon 13y agoJulie described the group of men as 'gawking'; as far as I'm aware, this is more or less interchangeable with the term 'ogling', in common use here in the UK. This is significantly different from just staring - it implies a sexual undercurrent, i.e. paying particular attention to someone's physical characteristics. Maybe this is a cultural thing, but the clear implication in the original report was that the staring/ogling was inappropriate, particularly because it was undertaken by a group solely consisting of men.
- jiggy2011 13y agoOgling is defined as "stare at in a lecherous manner." The hard part here is defining "lecherous" but it would seem to imply that he is watching in a way that signals sexual intent. It's worth noting that women are generally much better at interpreting body language than men are, so it's possible that a guy is watching the woman dance and getting some sort of erotic enjoyment from it, tries his best to hide it but some subconscious subtle clue gives him away. Having said that, hoop dancing would seem like an inappropriate thing to do in most offices to begin with but I would say the same thing about nerf gun fights.
- dyno12345 13y agoGawking is not sexual, ogling is. You can gawk at a bus accident, you can't ogle it. Anyway, another account of the incident paints a very different picture of the scene: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7408466 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7408466 claiming that the gawking in question was undertaken by all present and not limited to men
- tw268 13y agoWhat's the difference between "looking" and "ogling"? Whether or not a feminist is standing nearby
- gaius 13y agoSo what's gawker.com?
- tw268 13y agoThis seems to be asserting some sort of bizarre serf-like hierarchy where men aren't even supposed to look at their superiors