I don't think anyone pretended it didn't exist. But you oversimplify when you say it's only negative. Learning to fly planes or raising a puppy by yourself has

I don't think anyone pretended it didn't exist. But you oversimplify when you say it's only negative. Learning to fly planes or raising a puppy by yourself has a nonzero effect on your time too, but usually these are considered pluses when hiring someone, because they show responsibility, well-roundedness, maturity, fulfillment, etc.