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Hacking how to find a life partner

5 points by tuxguy 13y ago

lutusp 13y ago
Stories like this perpetuate a slowly dying myth -- that people are naturally married and should feel unfulfilled if they're single. Some people are very happy married, but the vast majority aren't (they're either unhappily married or single), and that may be a natural statement about the human condition. In the U.S. those who are single are increasing and are approaching an absolute majority, and a majority are either single or unhappily married. There may be a reason for this, rooted in the human condition. Source: http://www.census.gov/newsroom/releases/archives/facts_for_features_special_editions/cb13-ff21.html http://www.census.gov/newsroom/releases/archives/facts_for_f... Quote: "53.6%: Percentage of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older who were women in 2012; 46.4 percent were men. Source: America's Families and Living Arrangements: 2012" (53.6 + 43.4) / 2 = 48.5% overall
- JoeAltmaier 13y ago
  Maybe we should work on making it easier to be happy, married. Because raising children is definitely a better proposition with more than one parent - better outcomes for everybody.
  - lutusp 13y ago
    Yes, perhaps, but it's well-established that having children strains a relationship like nothing else. The simple way to make it easier to be happily married is not to have children, but this advice will likely not be followed -- it contradicts human nature.
    - JoeAltmaier 13y ago
      That strain is maybe due to a dysfunctional idea of marriage at present. That can be changed.
      - lutusp 13y ago
        Yes, in a two-step process: 1. Make people aware that marriage isn't remotely how it's popularly portrayed -- it's more a business arrangement than a romantic fantasy. 2. Popularize the idea that it's natural and expected, not a problem to be solved, that nearly half the population is single.
        JoeAltmaier 13y ago
        The 2nd is your opinion. Lots of single guys I know are miserable. There definitely an under-served population here, and saying its natural and expected isn't the whole solution.

5 points by tuxguy 13y ago

Stories like this perpetuate a slowly dying myth -- that people are naturally married and should feel unfulfilled if they're single. Some people are very happy married, but the vast majority aren't (they're either unhappily married or single), and that may be a natural statement about the human condition. In the U.S. those who are single are increasing and are approaching an absolute majority, and a majority are either single or unhappily married. There may be a reason for this, rooted in the human condition. Source: http://www.census.gov/newsroom/releases/archives/facts_for_features_special_editions/cb13-ff21.html http://www.census.gov/newsroom/releases/archives/facts_for_f... Quote: "53.6%: Percentage of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older who were women in 2012; 46.4 percent were men. Source: America's Families and Living Arrangements: 2012" (53.6 + 43.4) / 2 = 48.5% overall

JoeAltmaier 13y ago
Maybe we should work on making it easier to be happy, married. Because raising children is definitely a better proposition with more than one parent - better outcomes for everybody.
- lutusp 13y ago
  Yes, perhaps, but it's well-established that having children strains a relationship like nothing else. The simple way to make it easier to be happily married is not to have children, but this advice will likely not be followed -- it contradicts human nature.
  - JoeAltmaier 13y ago
    That strain is maybe due to a dysfunctional idea of marriage at present. That can be changed.
    - lutusp 13y ago
      Yes, in a two-step process: 1. Make people aware that marriage isn't remotely how it's popularly portrayed -- it's more a business arrangement than a romantic fantasy. 2. Popularize the idea that it's natural and expected, not a problem to be solved, that nearly half the population is single.
      - JoeAltmaier 13y ago
        The 2nd is your opinion. Lots of single guys I know are miserable. There definitely an under-served population here, and saying its natural and expected isn't the whole solution.