Trolling someone who suffers great pain when holding two opposing positions in mind, and blames the pain on the person bringing the opposing position is counter

Trolling someone who suffers great pain when holding two opposing positions in mind, and blames the pain on the person bringing the opposing position is counter productive. It feels like trying to paint a 3d rotating gif onto a canvas with a large brush. You may be able to paint one frame fairly well, but it will not rotate. The spirit of the gif cannot be hosted on this canvas. You can host subsets of it, but not the entire spirit of the duality of ideas. The "dance around the issues like a butterfly" is not something you teach. And trying to teach it, you just make the other person angry or depressed they can't do what you do.