I totally get your point but you can choose to not have that validate you. I put effort into my appearance because I really enjoy it, but more than anything - a

I totally get your point but you can choose to not have that validate you. I put effort into my appearance because I really enjoy it, but more than anything - anything at all - I care about how good my work is and I'd rather be a hermit in a cave celebrated for my brilliant works. The outliers that we love, generally aren't known for their attention to appearance first.