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I grew up as one of these "terrified to fail" kids. Now I have a kid of my own, and one of my primary parenting goals is that she not end up like that.

• kaybe 13y ago
  How are you planning to do that? (Honestly curious.)
  • ssully 13y ago
    They way my parents did it for me was by identifying what I really enjoyed and what I had no interest in. They would encourage and push me to try new things and do what I was interested in, both in and out of school. When I did bad in school they would always ask if I tried my best, based on my answer they would push me accordingly. Their way of handling poor grades completely eliminated grade anxiety for me. Instead of freaking out when I failed I would try to identify why I failed and how to improve that.
  • joelgrus 13y ago
    Mostly by encouraging her to regularly try things that are well above her capabilities or that have low probabilities of success, and then being totally accepting/encouraging if/when she fails at them.