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Where would you suggest a person start if he wanted to gain this "skill with emotions?" That's a serious request. On re-reading, it sounds snarky, but I don't

Where would you suggest a person start if he wanted to gain this "skill with emotions?" That's a serious request. On re-reading, it sounds snarky, but I don't know another way to phrase it.

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jaredsohn 13y ago
I think you can start by reading up on emotional intelligence to gain awareness and then applying it more to new situations.
hosh 13y ago
Sure :-) The easiest way is to find someone who is emotionally sane. You probably have at least one such person in your life. That person tends to remain calm, yet seem to be fully aware of what is going on around them. They might quietly step in to calm the situation, or perhaps, just their presence seem to calm any panic of fear. People tend to go to them for advice, not necessarily for solving problems, but because hard problems don't seem to seem as hard when you talk to such a person. It might be your mother, father, or grandmother, or grandfather. It might be be a mentor or a teacher. You ask them for help with getting in touch with your emotions. If you have someone like this in your life, and they know you well, then they'll be happy to help you on this... often because they can see how you suffer from being unable to process emotions well. There are other approaches: - Take the 10-day Vipassana retreat. You would get in touch with the things that arises within you. - There are various shamanic medicine ceremonies using some form of psychedelics. These are guided, though the quality will vary. Since psychedelics alter your experiences, it opens up ways to experience emotions. - You can go to a licensed therapist. Like gurus, meditation teachers, and shamans, quality varies ... and sometimes, therapists will have their own pet theories (as you can see in other parts of the thread on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). A licensed hypnotherapist, or a psychologist/psychiatrist that knows how to use hynotherapy and practices meditation themselves are likely to be able to better help you with this. (Since we're not talking about behavioral modification, we're talking about becoming more self-aware). There may be other indicators, but I don't know this space well. There is usually stigma attached to this since people associate this with going to get "fixed" rather than going to get advice. - There are also lots and lots of different kinds of seminars, workshops, etc. related to this, often crossing into the woo. Books are the last resort, though if you read a method and like it, you can check out their their CDs, videos, and attend seminars. Books are good for sampling techniques, though without an in-person guide, it might be difficult to touch intense emotions. On the other hand, if you do have someone in your life that is emotionally sane, you could ask them to help you work with techniques from the book. One book that is interesting is called the Sedona Method. I want to preface it to say that, what is written in the Sedona Method is not unique, though sometimes the language might make it appear so. The methods are solid though, and the authors used NLP to guide you through the experiences step by step. It is fairly accessible. Finally, if all else fails or you have more questions or want other ideas or where to go looking for this skill, feel free to contact me. Indirect means of contact are in my profile.
hosh 13y ago
@redblacktree Also want to point out ... based on one of your other comments (about releasing and feeling through things rather than dwelling), you might already get some of the stuff in the Sedona Method. I wrote the above because I don't know where you are at now. There are more intense kind of practices, like the one written in Tsultrim Allione's Demon Feeding: Ancient Wisdom for Resolving Inner Conflict. Most people freak out about practices like that though.

Where would you suggest a person start if he wanted to gain this "skill with emotions?" That's a serious request. On re-reading, it sounds snarky, but I don't know another way to phrase it.

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jaredsohn 13y ago

I think you can start by reading up on emotional intelligence to gain awareness and then applying it more to new situations.

hosh 13y ago

Sure :-) The easiest way is to find someone who is emotionally sane. You probably have at least one such person in your life. That person tends to remain calm, yet seem to be fully aware of what is going on around them. They might quietly step in to calm the situation, or perhaps, just their presence seem to calm any panic of fear. People tend to go to them for advice, not necessarily for solving problems, but because hard problems don't seem to seem as hard when you talk to such a person. It might be your mother, father, or grandmother, or grandfather. It might be be a mentor or a teacher. You ask them for help with getting in touch with your emotions. If you have someone like this in your life, and they know you well, then they'll be happy to help you on this... often because they can see how you suffer from being unable to process emotions well. There are other approaches: - Take the 10-day Vipassana retreat. You would get in touch with the things that arises within you. - There are various shamanic medicine ceremonies using some form of psychedelics. These are guided, though the quality will vary. Since psychedelics alter your experiences, it opens up ways to experience emotions. - You can go to a licensed therapist. Like gurus, meditation teachers, and shamans, quality varies ... and sometimes, therapists will have their own pet theories (as you can see in other parts of the thread on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). A licensed hypnotherapist, or a psychologist/psychiatrist that knows how to use hynotherapy and practices meditation themselves are likely to be able to better help you with this. (Since we're not talking about behavioral modification, we're talking about becoming more self-aware). There may be other indicators, but I don't know this space well. There is usually stigma attached to this since people associate this with going to get "fixed" rather than going to get advice. - There are also lots and lots of different kinds of seminars, workshops, etc. related to this, often crossing into the woo. Books are the last resort, though if you read a method and like it, you can check out their their CDs, videos, and attend seminars. Books are good for sampling techniques, though without an in-person guide, it might be difficult to touch intense emotions. On the other hand, if you do have someone in your life that is emotionally sane, you could ask them to help you work with techniques from the book. One book that is interesting is called the Sedona Method. I want to preface it to say that, what is written in the Sedona Method is not unique, though sometimes the language might make it appear so. The methods are solid though, and the authors used NLP to guide you through the experiences step by step. It is fairly accessible. Finally, if all else fails or you have more questions or want other ideas or where to go looking for this skill, feel free to contact me. Indirect means of contact are in my profile.

hosh 13y ago

@redblacktree Also want to point out ... based on one of your other comments (about releasing and feeling through things rather than dwelling), you might already get some of the stuff in the Sedona Method. I wrote the above because I don't know where you are at now. There are more intense kind of practices, like the one written in Tsultrim Allione's Demon Feeding: Ancient Wisdom for Resolving Inner Conflict. Most people freak out about practices like that though.