There is some truth in "finding something that you're good at that the other person isn't" - but not all "somethings" are equal. Certain things are flashier, a

There is some truth in "finding something that you're good at that the other person isn't" - but not all "somethings" are equal. Certain things are flashier, and more intimidating than others - for example, you could be the world's best software engineer, but you'd be way less intimidating than a bodybuilder, boxer, hot guy/gal, movie star etc. I'm not saying this is right or wrong, but this is the way the world seems to work.