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>Americans don't understand buying lunch for your superiors. More wealthy/higher ranking/socially powerful/popular/lucky != superior. I occasionally buy lunch
by phaus 13y ago
>Americans don't understand buying lunch for your superiors.
More wealthy/higher ranking/socially powerful/popular/lucky != superior.
I occasionally buy lunch for my friends and co-workers out of mutual respect and a genuine desire to show them that the relationships we share are appreciated. If one of them happens to be my supervisor, so be it. But there has to be a mutually respectful relationship between us.
I'd also have to seriously question the character of anyone who, being aware of the fact that they make multiple times your income, would still allow you to buy them lunch (Unless it was a trivial amount).
- dhoulb 13y agoRicher obviously != better. But being richer === being richer. He's saying if you want more money, hang out with richer people, and you'll pick up some tips. And a good way to get time with someone is to buy them lunch. You're right that the entire theme of the article sort-of implies richer is better, but a plain reading of it just says: here's how to own a car and a house. It makes no promises about being a nice person.
- phaus 13y agoI wasn't criticizing the entire article. I was disagreeing with a single person's claim that disagreeing with a cultural norm is the same thing as failing to understand it. Most of the advice in the original article was pretty good. I just happen to prefer meeting people in a more natural manner. I just wouldn't feel right spending my free time trying to manipulate my way into a rich person's life with the hope that I might somehow benefit from it in the long run.