Well, in my first marriage I worked as a programmer and had a side project and several failed business attempts. This ended the marriage in part. The other part

Well, in my first marriage I worked as a programmer and had a side project and several failed business attempts. This ended the marriage in part. The other part was we married at 18 before either of us knew about the "real world". My current SO and I have been together/married since 2007. She understands how much of a geek I am. She understands sometimes I have to think about every outcome. She encourages me to get up and work if I am "restless in bed". I am currently writing a video game for IOS and Wii U and spending a lot of time doing it. We call them "admin weekends". We both sit at the kitchen table and work on our goals. Mine is the game. Hers is a Wordpress blog and vegan cooking. We take breaks together. Dinner, maybe a movie and then back to it. I also involve her in my game. Ask her to play it. Tell me how it feels. Ask her opinion about features, UI, etc. This is all well and good, but..... If she asks for my time in anyway, I give it to her. She sees I am devoted to her needs and in return, she doesn't ask me all day for things. If she says "I need to go out to dinner". I am dressed, keys and debit card in had.