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This seems completely delusional to me. Your answer to every problem is saying "solve the problem". I can think of two problems every person has that are not tr

by larve 13y ago

This seems completely delusional to me. Your answer to every problem is saying "solve the problem". I can think of two problems every person has that are not trivially solvable with your approach: Problem: people die Problem: people are unhappy Or, to relate to what transpires as "your" problem, having a meaningful fulfilling time with other people. Which by the way is a problem that I think is fundamental to human existence. In my experience, problems that look trivial get increasingly complex the closer you look at them. The simple problem of (off the top of my head) how to cook an egg will probably bring you a lifetime worth of fulfilling intellectual challenges. I have a decent IQ, skipped a few years of education, and used to think I had trouble relating to other people. I still seem to have this uncanny ability (at times) to solve programming issues (I'm a developer). I used to think I had trouble relating to other people and set out to live a more passionate life, and spent a lot of time with less intellectually oriented people. One thing I learned (and I had to learn it, as in spend effort on acquiring some kind of knowledge) is that intelligence is so much more than what I thought it was. It is not just about solving problems, it is also about experiencing and appreciating reality, and how to share and express your appreciation of reality. It clicked one day, and I have pretty much no problems anymore connecting with people, regardless of how trivially solvable their "problems" are. This is a bit rambling and dishing out advice, and I don't want it to sound that way. I am trying to boil it down to your approach of problem + solution. Here is a simple one: Problem: the sunset yesterday was beautiful, and I want to share the beauty I experienced with you.

bane 13y ago
Problem: people die, unsolvable don't bother. Problem: people are unhappy, sounds like you found the trivial solution, no? Your explanation sums to me as "don't do things that make you unhappy, do things that make you happy". Problem: it's hard to connect with people, do things that connect with people. Do them with lots of people till you find connections. My central thesis here is that solving normal every day problems, the kind that people write into Dear Abby about, is usually pretty simple. It's why Dear Abby and similar columns have a) been around for decades b) are given just a couple inches of column space c) answer half a dozen "life problems" every week in under 2 paragraphs. Would it come across better if I framed it as a Dear Abby question? Nobody seems to have particular problems with her? If you strip away the polite wording, her solutions are usually one or two sentences. Or would it be better if I padded the simple solution in easier to digest language like Dear Abby? Problem: People Die Solution: I'm very sorry that people die. It's a sad thing when a particularly bright light, who's contributed so much to the world, and so much yet to contribute, is snuffed out. People have desired long and hard for an end to the end, but it's a simple fact of life. Learning to accept death, and find closure, without dwelling in the past (move forward in celebration of their life!) is an important part of living your own life. Does that make you feel better? The solution is no different. But now we've both wasted time getting to it. It's not any more complex than it was before, but now it's coated with sugar. That's not problem solving. Here's an article acknowledging and celebrating this http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2013/01/17/words-of-wisdom-the-best-of-dear-abby.html http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2013/01/17/words-of-wi... Read very carefully her advice and see if it's materially different than mine.

by larve 13y ago

bane 13y ago

Problem: people die, unsolvable don't bother. Problem: people are unhappy, sounds like you found the trivial solution, no? Your explanation sums to me as "don't do things that make you unhappy, do things that make you happy". Problem: it's hard to connect with people, do things that connect with people. Do them with lots of people till you find connections. My central thesis here is that solving normal every day problems, the kind that people write into Dear Abby about, is usually pretty simple. It's why Dear Abby and similar columns have a) been around for decades b) are given just a couple inches of column space c) answer half a dozen "life problems" every week in under 2 paragraphs. Would it come across better if I framed it as a Dear Abby question? Nobody seems to have particular problems with her? If you strip away the polite wording, her solutions are usually one or two sentences. Or would it be better if I padded the simple solution in easier to digest language like Dear Abby? Problem: People Die Solution: I'm very sorry that people die. It's a sad thing when a particularly bright light, who's contributed so much to the world, and so much yet to contribute, is snuffed out. People have desired long and hard for an end to the end, but it's a simple fact of life. Learning to accept death, and find closure, without dwelling in the past (move forward in celebration of their life!) is an important part of living your own life. Does that make you feel better? The solution is no different. But now we've both wasted time getting to it. It's not any more complex than it was before, but now it's coated with sugar. That's not problem solving. Here's an article acknowledging and celebrating this http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2013/01/17/words-of-wisdom-the-best-of-dear-abby.html http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2013/01/17/words-of-wi... Read very carefully her advice and see if it's materially different than mine.