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>"I committed to my wife that I would find employment, rather than chasing another dream — at least for now." Sounds like the author hasn't entirely bought int
by incision 13y ago
>"I committed to my wife that I would find employment, rather than chasing another dream — at least for now."
Sounds like the author hasn't entirely bought into that notion.
Anecdotally, each person I've know who did this - put their dream on hold for their spouse as opposed to fully accepting the idea themselves - ended up extremely bitter about it.
- mtrimpe 13y agoI don't think that's how he intended that. I interpreted it as a mutual agreement that for now he would find employment until he/they could afford to try again. I don't know if you read his previous post, but the guy was in pretty dire straits.
- georgemcbay 13y agoI can understand how people might grow bitter in the situation where they put their "dream on hold" because their spouse was afraid of dealing with the unknown, but if you already tried making a go of your dream and it failed and you are now in significant debt, putting your dream on hold and taking regular employment is the only sane option, so in OP's case, I don't see how this could manifest itself in bitterness towards his spouse unless he is insane.
- mbreese 13y agoI think it's a bit different in this case. He did chase his dream, and it didn't work. Now he's committed to putting it on hold, at least for a while. There's a big difference between putting something permanently on hold and never trying versus trying, failing, and then putting them on hold. I don't think he'll be bitter because he tried this time. Maybe after some time he (and his family) will be ready to try again.