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If they ask for advice that is one thing; if it is offered "For free" it can be a huge pain. Honestly; I've founded many different businesses over the past 20

If they ask for advice that is one thing; if it is offered "For free" it can be a huge pain. Honestly; I've founded many different businesses over the past 20 years (of varying levels of success), and I get really tired of people telling me everything I'm doing wrong. If I wanted to hear what I'm doing wrong, I'd call my parents or talk to the wife.

Goopplesoft 13y ago
> If I wanted to hear what I'm doing wrong, I'd call my parents or talk to the wife. Interesting because I think generally the experience is quite the opposite. Parents & spouses (never had one) tend to be over encouraging and much less critical. So I can see how you found that redundant since the critiquing was coming from another source in your life.
- general_failure 13y ago
  You got what he is saying right? It want meant to be taken literally.
  - ihaveajob 13y ago
    It probably depends on the person, but in my case, my parents' work life has been so diametrically opposite to mine that this rings quite true.
- reboog711 13y ago
  You have very different relationships with your parents than I have with mine, then. It took 10 years for my mom to stop asking when I was going to get a "real" job.
kordless 13y ago
That's the basic intent behind Non-Violent Communications. Stating opinions and experience is fine, but when you start speaking for someone's (or their company's) interests, you end up crossing a line that causes the recipient to react negatively. Nobody wants to be told what they are doing is wrong. They must choose to figure it out on their own.
- reboog711 13y ago
  When running a business; "wrong" is open to interpretation. There are a million things to do and you can't do all of them so you have to balance your time with other priorities. It seems unlikely that after 10 minutes someone would understand your situation enough to be able to judge.

Goopplesoft 13y ago

> If I wanted to hear what I'm doing wrong, I'd call my parents or talk to the wife. Interesting because I think generally the experience is quite the opposite. Parents & spouses (never had one) tend to be over encouraging and much less critical. So I can see how you found that redundant since the critiquing was coming from another source in your life.

general_failure 13y ago
You got what he is saying right? It want meant to be taken literally.
- ihaveajob 13y ago
  It probably depends on the person, but in my case, my parents' work life has been so diametrically opposite to mine that this rings quite true.
reboog711 13y ago
You have very different relationships with your parents than I have with mine, then. It took 10 years for my mom to stop asking when I was going to get a "real" job.

kordless 13y ago

That's the basic intent behind Non-Violent Communications. Stating opinions and experience is fine, but when you start speaking for someone's (or their company's) interests, you end up crossing a line that causes the recipient to react negatively. Nobody wants to be told what they are doing is wrong. They must choose to figure it out on their own.

reboog711 13y ago
When running a business; "wrong" is open to interpretation. There are a million things to do and you can't do all of them so you have to balance your time with other priorities. It seems unlikely that after 10 minutes someone would understand your situation enough to be able to judge.