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Well, as I was writing a comment in a Hacker News thread, I figured it'd be excusable to restrict myself to that which is relevant in the context of the discuss
by aaronem 13y ago
Well, as I was writing a comment in a Hacker News thread, I figured it'd be excusable to restrict myself to that which is relevant in the context of the discussion at hand, rather than trying to encompass the whole world. Perhaps I was wrong in that. But, nitpicks aside, the point I'm making is that standing up for yourself is strictly preferable to not doing so, both in terms of self-respect and in that, save only the most extreme of outliers, standing up for yourself will produce a preferable result. Do you contend otherwise?
- DanBC 13y agoI contend that situation matters, and that standing up for youself has been tried by some people who then suffered worse brutality. It's easy to say "stand up for yourself", especially if you have wrong ideas about bullies, but just saying it is not particularly helpful for many people being bullied. It is trite and simplistic. It is also harmful for some people being bullied.
- nitrogen 13y agoStanding up for myself worked for me in grade school, after years of torment. A nuanced approach is required, but measured retaliation is appropriate in some cases.
- DanBC 13y agoYes, sometimes bopping the aggressor on the nose will work wonders. Sometimes there are clear and useful anti-bullying policies in place and people can use them. I'm not saying "never do it". I'm just saying that it's not always that easy.