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What about the (somewhat proven) idea that pulling these 'power tricks' to keep up the act, and seeing them return positive results does cultivate the inner con

• kirse 13y ago
  How should one focus on cultivating a quiet confidence while never taking action? I didn't say it was an either/or dichotomy between attitude and action, simply that there was zero thought given to the attitude, which is the source from which all of our actions and behaviors flow. Obviously there must be some balance -- because we are called to act with courage even when the confident attitude isn't quite there yet -- but a list of "power tricks" is 100% focused on just imitating the actions without improving one's inner attitude. We're all just faking it until we make it. Sure, someone who imitates actions/behaviors without any change of heart/attitude is "faking it." In fact, this is the greatest reason why people fail to achieve long-lasting personal change, because it requires too much effort to "fake it" in every area of life. But this trite saying about "faking it" does not apply to the man who does the hard work of reshaping his inner attitude (along with acting in the face of fear as life demands). If you want oranges instead of apples from the tree in your back yard, you don't spend your days hanging oranges on the apple tree. You dig up the apple tree and nurture an orange tree.