Well, OP is saying that fallacies in logic are really only fallacies if the assumptions that constitute the definition of that fallacy actually apply to a parti

Well, OP is saying that fallacies in logic are really only fallacies if the assumptions that constitute the definition of that fallacy actually apply to a particular situation. Because situations differ so much, context is critical, and OP is saying that people often incorrectly define real-world social situations as instances of logical fallacies.