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Sad thing is I never expected any recognition or credit. Never asked for interest. Only sent gently worded email reminders about 2 times, like months after. I

• DLarsen 13y ago
  Perhaps you could restore the relationship around by forgiving the debt. "Hey, I really regret loaning you that money. Hard lesson learned. Don't worry about paying me back. As far as I'm concerned we're back to square one; you don't owe me a penny. Our relationship is way more important than the money." Easier said than done, but you'd probably get your friend back.
  • weaksauce 13y ago
    I'd say don't say regret. The negative connotation of that is not as good as... "Hey, I know you have been on hard times and feel guilty for not paying back that loan. Don't worry about paying...(the rest of your phrasing)
  • pawn 13y ago
    I'd suggest leaving off the first two sentences.
• kelnos 13y ago
  I think the parent's point was that (in hindsight) it would have been better to just give the money as a gift, and not as a loan. My general philosophy about that sort of thing is that, if the sum isn't materially significant to me, and I care about the person enough to help them out of a jam, it's far simpler to just give it without any expectation of return. If they are able to pay it back, and feel like they must, then that's fine. If not, that's also fine. If they can't pay it back, but still feel like they owe me something, and offer to do me a favor of some kind in the future, that's great too. But none of it is necessary, and I won't care either way, as long as I believe they appreciate the help.