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What a coincidence—I'm going through this right now. The night my boyfriend broke up with me (two days ago) I differentiated equations until 4 a.m. Now I'm work

by b0k0n0n 17y ago

What a coincidence—I'm going through this right now. The night my boyfriend broke up with me (two days ago) I differentiated equations until 4 a.m. Now I'm working on inductive logic and doing my best to stay off of e-mail and facebook. I use other outlets such as reading and exercising, but I've found mathematics' abstraction to be the most helpful. Reading books brings up motifs and messages and content that calls certain memories to mind; diving into math allows transcendence.

darkxanthos 17y ago
I would give my left nut for a woman who understands half of what you just said. Rebound? ;) EDIT: (BTW that's also to say some guys just don't know what they've got till they don't. You'll land on your feet, you'll see.)
- swolchok 17y ago
  reminder: "hackers" and "gay people" are not disjoint sets, so mentioning a boyfriend doesn't imply femininity (not gay; recently made a public mistake of this nature).
  - darkxanthos 17y ago
    Touché... I'm an optimist I guess!
    - b0k0n0n 17y ago
      haha..good guess though—I am female.
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      - darkxanthos 17y ago
        haha! w00t hit me up: darkxanthos at gmail dot com My life would be improved ten fold by knowing a woman with interests like yours even if just as friends. EDIT: Also it's email how badly could I possibly stalk you?
        mahmud 17y ago
        I really admire your brash confidence. It's that kind of self-centered attitude and utter disregard for social norms that will ultimately make you a very successful Man. Apply that persistance to business and you will be one very well-off bonehead :-) Cheers!
        darkxanthos 17y ago
        umm... Thank you..? You have confused me and caused me to literally laugh out loud. Regardless of your intentions, awesome comment.
        swolchok 17y ago
        Assuming your post is meant to be sardonic: There is an established school of thought that says that that sort of thing has a high likelihood of impressing women.
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        bkrausz 17y ago
        HN dating-site spinoff anyone?
        frossie 17y ago
        I don't think the world needs "Ruby babe in search of Django framework" :-) That said, if those two get together they should let the rest of us know.
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- sutro 17y ago
  Friendly tip: when picking someone up, don't lead with your left (or right) testicle. If things go well, those can be introduced at a later time.
  - darkxanthos 17y ago
    Don't hate the player vato! Also a friendly tip for you: If you do find yourself leading in with a reference to a left or right nut do NOT call it your left or right testicle. WAY too detailed a picture.
wglb 17y ago
I have used this technique in the past and call it Diversionary Therapy.
- 9oliYQjP 17y ago
  I have a tendency to dwell on a negative situation, which I've learned, quite painfully, is possibly the worst thing to do. So whenever something comes along that wipes me off my feet, I decide to pickup a new skill/hobby and focus on that as much as possible. I find it gives me something else to talk about when I'm with friends, instead of rehashing the "woe is me, life sucks" tale of the times. Because the experience is new, there are always things to look forward to. When my first serious relationship ended, I decided to become a racing fan and memorized all there was to know about various racing series. I've also become a gym nut, learned how to shave with a straight razor (and maintain them), become an expert at various video games, etc. Unfortunately this past week I got into a stupid fight with a girl I'm in an "it's complicated" sort of relationship with. Or actually, she's angry at me and I don't think she should be. I've been using HN as a form of "diversionary therapy" the past several days :)
  - darkxanthos 17y ago
    Empathy/Pride swallowing helps too. Not saying you're wrong... just saying that in the end it doesn't really matter. You can still find a way to agree. Good luck.
    - 9oliYQjP 17y ago
      It does. I swallowed my pride and extended an olive branch before this issue began as I sensed something was wrong. She said everything was okay. Then the next week she phoned me at work, after I'd invited her out to a movie, and she unloaded on me. Apparently wanting to do stuff with her meant I was not respecting "boundaries" (FYI nothing shady going on like an affair or anything of the sort). Totally ruined the rest of my week. I suspect this is her way of pushing me away and telling me she doesn't want a relationship, but c'mon we're adults. Just come out and tell me. If I were a couple of years younger, I'd have defended my position when she phoned. Instead, I bit my tongue, only replied with "okay" and decided to respect her wishes by cutting off contact for a while. We share a hobby so it'll be interesting to see if she shows up this week. I've been really bummed out by the situation. I'm not old, but I'm too old for this sort of crap. I thought we had a good thing going, so much so that I didn't follow up on a few opportunities with a couple of other girls that I was attracted to who showed interest.
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by b0k0n0n 17y ago

darkxanthos 17y ago

I would give my left nut for a woman who understands half of what you just said. Rebound? ;) EDIT: (BTW that's also to say some guys just don't know what they've got till they don't. You'll land on your feet, you'll see.)

swolchok 17y ago
reminder: "hackers" and "gay people" are not disjoint sets, so mentioning a boyfriend doesn't imply femininity (not gay; recently made a public mistake of this nature).
- darkxanthos 17y ago
  Touché... I'm an optimist I guess!
  - b0k0n0n 17y ago
    haha..good guess though—I am female.
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    - darkxanthos 17y ago
      haha! w00t hit me up: darkxanthos at gmail dot com My life would be improved ten fold by knowing a woman with interests like yours even if just as friends. EDIT: Also it's email how badly could I possibly stalk you?
      - mahmud 17y ago
        I really admire your brash confidence. It's that kind of self-centered attitude and utter disregard for social norms that will ultimately make you a very successful Man. Apply that persistance to business and you will be one very well-off bonehead :-) Cheers!
        darkxanthos 17y ago
        umm... Thank you..? You have confused me and caused me to literally laugh out loud. Regardless of your intentions, awesome comment.
        swolchok 17y ago
        Assuming your post is meant to be sardonic: There is an established school of thought that says that that sort of thing has a high likelihood of impressing women.
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      - bkrausz 17y ago
        HN dating-site spinoff anyone?
        frossie 17y ago
        I don't think the world needs "Ruby babe in search of Django framework" :-) That said, if those two get together they should let the rest of us know.
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sutro 17y ago
Friendly tip: when picking someone up, don't lead with your left (or right) testicle. If things go well, those can be introduced at a later time.
- darkxanthos 17y ago
  Don't hate the player vato! Also a friendly tip for you: If you do find yourself leading in with a reference to a left or right nut do NOT call it your left or right testicle. WAY too detailed a picture.

wglb 17y ago

I have used this technique in the past and call it Diversionary Therapy.

9oliYQjP 17y ago
I have a tendency to dwell on a negative situation, which I've learned, quite painfully, is possibly the worst thing to do. So whenever something comes along that wipes me off my feet, I decide to pickup a new skill/hobby and focus on that as much as possible. I find it gives me something else to talk about when I'm with friends, instead of rehashing the "woe is me, life sucks" tale of the times. Because the experience is new, there are always things to look forward to. When my first serious relationship ended, I decided to become a racing fan and memorized all there was to know about various racing series. I've also become a gym nut, learned how to shave with a straight razor (and maintain them), become an expert at various video games, etc. Unfortunately this past week I got into a stupid fight with a girl I'm in an "it's complicated" sort of relationship with. Or actually, she's angry at me and I don't think she should be. I've been using HN as a form of "diversionary therapy" the past several days :)
- darkxanthos 17y ago
  Empathy/Pride swallowing helps too. Not saying you're wrong... just saying that in the end it doesn't really matter. You can still find a way to agree. Good luck.
  - 9oliYQjP 17y ago
    It does. I swallowed my pride and extended an olive branch before this issue began as I sensed something was wrong. She said everything was okay. Then the next week she phoned me at work, after I'd invited her out to a movie, and she unloaded on me. Apparently wanting to do stuff with her meant I was not respecting "boundaries" (FYI nothing shady going on like an affair or anything of the sort). Totally ruined the rest of my week. I suspect this is her way of pushing me away and telling me she doesn't want a relationship, but c'mon we're adults. Just come out and tell me. If I were a couple of years younger, I'd have defended my position when she phoned. Instead, I bit my tongue, only replied with "okay" and decided to respect her wishes by cutting off contact for a while. We share a hobby so it'll be interesting to see if she shows up this week. I've been really bummed out by the situation. I'm not old, but I'm too old for this sort of crap. I thought we had a good thing going, so much so that I didn't follow up on a few opportunities with a couple of other girls that I was attracted to who showed interest.

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