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This "other people aren't thinking about you" thing - I hear or read this every three seconds. It's a chestnut. Yeah, there's some truth to it... sometimes... m
by benched 13y ago
This "other people aren't thinking about you" thing - I hear or read this every three seconds. It's a chestnut. Yeah, there's some truth to it... sometimes... maybe? It depends who and when? I know that I spend a lot of time thinking about other specific people, and I can't be the only one on the planet who does. I think this tired advice is more of an "act as if" thing.
Either that or the rest of you are far more self-involved than even I thought.
- chc 13y agoYou are quite literally one in seven billion. You could spend all day every day thinking about a given person and it would still be absolutely true that people in general do not give that person a second's thought on average. You could object to any general truism with "it depends who and when" — that is true, but not insightful. There are babies for whom mother's milk is deadly, but it's still a biological fact that babies benefit from nursing.
- benched 13y agoI know that nobody in, e.g. London, is thinking about me. Nobody is talking about that. Among my boss, my coworkers, my family, my various caretakers, my dates, my fellow sportspeople, and my friends - if they're never thinking about me, then, well, fuck them. I think about them. That we mean 'in your little bubble in the world' seems to be implied.
- chc 13y agoIt's generally true on any meaningful scale (i.e. if your sample size is "my stalker," no, it's not true, but that isn't really relevant). There are always outliers, but in general, for a general "you" and any reasonable number of general "people," the people aren't thinking about you that much — and I mean, why should they be thinking about you all the time?