It surprises me that such a logical author thinks that good marriages have much (if anything) to do with picking the "right person" so to speak. It seems to me

It surprises me that such a logical author thinks that good marriages have much (if anything) to do with picking the "right person" so to speak. It seems to me that: 1) Its damn near impossible to guess at what a person will be like 10-50 years from now. On some level its a crap shoot, and marriage is about learning to love whom they become. Hopefully that plays out on both sides of the coin (each spouse continues to love whom the other becomes). 2) "Good" and "Bad" marriage mostly has to do with how people fight/interact (see stuff by John Gottman). People will always fight over money, kids, laundry duties etc, but their satisfaction in the relationship will have more to do with how they fight, than what they fight over. 3) Individuals have total control over whom they fall in love with. IIRC the cascading brain chemicals involved with love that override logic from occurring properly: http://www.mikelee.org/the-science-of-love-chemicals-and-romance.html http://www.mikelee.org/the-science-of-love-chemicals-and-rom... .