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I think you are not acknowledging the difficulty of calling someone out on the spot. It is awkward, and puts a complete stop to the actual, desired activity. It
by scott_s 13y ago
I think you are not acknowledging the difficulty of calling someone out on the spot. It is awkward, and puts a complete stop to the actual, desired activity. It also puts the victim through two unwanted situations.
As others have also said, people in such situations are sometimes so surprised by the infraction that they are stunned, and at a loss for how to react. It may take them time after the event to process what happened and determine how they feel.
The reason that others in the thread have brought up blaming the victim is that you have not acknowledged these aspects of the situation.
- ossreality 13y agoDing ding ding. You just walked into a huge room of strangers, were hugged, were groped and are probably feeling VERY anxious and uncomfortable. And I'm supposed to what? Cause a scene and now have ALL of the attention of a room full of guys on me? Etc. Empathy, again, reigns. Imagine yourself in this situation, people. If "empathy" is so hard, imagine yourself in a room of gay guys who are there to have a book club and then one starts touching you. /shrug