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As I get older I tend to be more selective of who I would like to share my time with. I'd rather make connections with my family and friends than my co-workers.

As I get older I tend to be more selective of who I would like to share my time with. I'd rather make connections with my family and friends than my co-workers. For me it's just a job. It's not summer camp. I'm certain creativity and collaboration don't require any phantom energy in a room of people to happen. The majority of people who build open source software have never met. And in projects like Apache, OpenStack, Mozilla and what-not there are thousands of contributors at every level. I contribute to projects with people whom I've only talked with on IRC and through commit logs and code reviews. It hasn't stopped any of us. I think you're mistaken that there is some evolutionary heritage that requires us to be in person in order to effectively collaborate.

semerda 13y ago
Yap because in those projects one works best in isolation. Growing a company is a lot different. Have you read this? The Lethality of Loneliness - We now know how it can ravage our body and brain http://www.newrepublic.com/article/113176/science-loneliness-how-isolation-can-kill-you http://www.newrepublic.com/article/113176/science-loneliness...
- louhike 13y ago
  I'm not sure your link is relevant to him as he said he does not want to see too much his colleagues so he can see more his family and his friends. Therefore, he is not alone.
  - agentultra 13y ago
    You're right on the button. I spend more quality time with people who have a meaningful impact on my life. It isn't a lonely life. I feel much more enriched by having the privilege and opportunity to be so selective. Growing up I know my parents were forced to work and commute by necessity. They made friends at work because those were the people they were forced to spend their most time with and that's what most people do in that situation. It's not useful or necessary and it takes away from the time they could have spent with their real friends and family. I'm friendly and professional with my co-workers. We get along. However at the end of the day our relationship is ephemeral in the grand scheme of life. In a few years they or I will leave the company and it's not like we're going to be sitting on the porch together when we're 80 and remembering, "the good old days." (Outliers not withstanding).

semerda 13y ago

Yap because in those projects one works best in isolation. Growing a company is a lot different. Have you read this? The Lethality of Loneliness - We now know how it can ravage our body and brain http://www.newrepublic.com/article/113176/science-loneliness-how-isolation-can-kill-you http://www.newrepublic.com/article/113176/science-loneliness...

louhike 13y ago
I'm not sure your link is relevant to him as he said he does not want to see too much his colleagues so he can see more his family and his friends. Therefore, he is not alone.
- agentultra 13y ago
  You're right on the button. I spend more quality time with people who have a meaningful impact on my life. It isn't a lonely life. I feel much more enriched by having the privilege and opportunity to be so selective. Growing up I know my parents were forced to work and commute by necessity. They made friends at work because those were the people they were forced to spend their most time with and that's what most people do in that situation. It's not useful or necessary and it takes away from the time they could have spent with their real friends and family. I'm friendly and professional with my co-workers. We get along. However at the end of the day our relationship is ephemeral in the grand scheme of life. In a few years they or I will leave the company and it's not like we're going to be sitting on the porch together when we're 80 and remembering, "the good old days." (Outliers not withstanding).