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I was part of the team that rewrote Finland's most popular dating site about two years ago and this was one of the problems we tried to fix. We got pretty good

I was part of the team that rewrote Finland's most popular dating site about two years ago and this was one of the problems we tried to fix. We got pretty good results by letting users block messages from users who do not meet certain criteria. We gave users three different filters: 1. Allow messages from users who live in those areas where you are looking company 2. The same as 1., but also age and gender must match your "dream partner" settings 3. And finally allow messages from users who meet X percent of your dream partner settings And of course you could block users after they have messaged you, but that is already too late if you get 100 harassment messages per day.

Gravityloss 13y ago
Though if we're talking about Suomi24, the site is so buggy in general it's almost abandoned now. For example it loses your login status all the time.
- hpaavola 13y ago
  I don't know about the current situation, but at least first 6 months after the update the site did grow faster than it used to. But yes, we did have quite many problems after the rewrote.
ishener 13y ago
why not block a user from sending messages to anyone after, say, 3 complaints? yes, maybe it's a little harsh and not democratic, but it will make men much more considerate
- watwut 13y ago
  Systems like this are too easy to abuse.
- hpaavola 13y ago
  Such a system was built for images; if user images got too many complaints, then those images were hidden and sent to moderation queue where moderators could decide wheter those complaints were valid or not. It would have been fairly simple to do same for messages, but problem is that Finnish law does not permit moderators to read private messages. So it would have been unfair for some users.
- girvo 13y ago
  Easy abuse. Abuse, fake accounts, vindictive behaviour is already standard on these sites.
- yaix 13y ago
  > but it will make men much more considerate Yey, the sexism here.

Gravityloss 13y ago

Though if we're talking about Suomi24, the site is so buggy in general it's almost abandoned now. For example it loses your login status all the time.

hpaavola 13y ago
I don't know about the current situation, but at least first 6 months after the update the site did grow faster than it used to. But yes, we did have quite many problems after the rewrote.

ishener 13y ago

why not block a user from sending messages to anyone after, say, 3 complaints? yes, maybe it's a little harsh and not democratic, but it will make men much more considerate

watwut 13y ago
Systems like this are too easy to abuse.
hpaavola 13y ago
Such a system was built for images; if user images got too many complaints, then those images were hidden and sent to moderation queue where moderators could decide wheter those complaints were valid or not. It would have been fairly simple to do same for messages, but problem is that Finnish law does not permit moderators to read private messages. So it would have been unfair for some users.
girvo 13y ago
Easy abuse. Abuse, fake accounts, vindictive behaviour is already standard on these sites.
yaix 13y ago
> but it will make men much more considerate Yey, the sexism here.