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"I would hate to be your loved one." Is there any need to be that mean spirited about it? I think a sizeable quiet minority is underwhelmed by the work ethic

by 3am 13y ago

"I would hate to be your loved one." Is there any need to be that mean spirited about it? I think a sizeable quiet minority is underwhelmed by the work ethic philosophies discussions on HN. I don't think I'd go as far as the submitter, but I don't think I'd categorize it as "incredibly self-centered". edit: to the submitter, I don't think it was bad english or your tone. Some people are unable to consume opinions they disagree with. My unsolicited advice: just continue to be true to yourself and write what you think, you can never keep certain people happy.

CJefferson 13y ago
You are right, what I have written comes across as a personal attack and I'm sorry for that. I should have said "I would hate to be the loved one described in the first two paragraphs of this article". However, I do stand by this adjusted point -- I would not stay in a relationship which operated as described in the first two paragraphs of this article (which, to clarify, I'm not saying is how Daniel's relationship really is -- just how his blog post comes across).
- 3am 13y ago
  I try to avoid posting about tone because I don't think they add to the discussion and a lot of the time aren't received well. Thanks for the response. And I don't entirely disagree with you either... my read of the post was it was an exhortation to be passionate about purposeful about work, not really an itinerary planner around one's day. But if I interpreted it differently, I would have a different opinion. I also think the work/dinner discussion suggestion was something I'd try very hard to avoid in my own life :)
  - danielflopes 13y ago
    Thank you both for the responses. It was my intention to hear the opinion of the HN community. But, may you agree or not with my post, I believe a good discussion should always be about giving some constructive feedback in a friendly tone. Thanks CJefferson for clarifying your response. Thanks 3am for the giving the heads up. Sincerely.
eevilspock 13y ago
It's not mean spirited, it's an honest reaction, one that I myself felt. Lopes is baffled and is asking HN for the truth, not for commiseration. "I'm interested in knowing the point of view from the people of HN." By "point of view" I don't think he wants anything less than the point of view. By the way, the 10% who abandoned their subscriptions probably did so silently out of politeness.

by 3am 13y ago

CJefferson 13y ago

You are right, what I have written comes across as a personal attack and I'm sorry for that. I should have said "I would hate to be the loved one described in the first two paragraphs of this article". However, I do stand by this adjusted point -- I would not stay in a relationship which operated as described in the first two paragraphs of this article (which, to clarify, I'm not saying is how Daniel's relationship really is -- just how his blog post comes across).

3am 13y ago
I try to avoid posting about tone because I don't think they add to the discussion and a lot of the time aren't received well. Thanks for the response. And I don't entirely disagree with you either... my read of the post was it was an exhortation to be passionate about purposeful about work, not really an itinerary planner around one's day. But if I interpreted it differently, I would have a different opinion. I also think the work/dinner discussion suggestion was something I'd try very hard to avoid in my own life :)
- danielflopes 13y ago
  Thank you both for the responses. It was my intention to hear the opinion of the HN community. But, may you agree or not with my post, I believe a good discussion should always be about giving some constructive feedback in a friendly tone. Thanks CJefferson for clarifying your response. Thanks 3am for the giving the heads up. Sincerely.

eevilspock 13y ago

It's not mean spirited, it's an honest reaction, one that I myself felt. Lopes is baffled and is asking HN for the truth, not for commiseration. "I'm interested in knowing the point of view from the people of HN." By "point of view" I don't think he wants anything less than the point of view. By the way, the 10% who abandoned their subscriptions probably did so silently out of politeness.