i find that a phrase i started using some years ago has helped to drop my ego significantly. when asking for help, i phrase my question literally as "what am i

i find that a phrase i started using some years ago has helped to drop my ego significantly. when asking for help, i phrase my question literally as "what am i doing wrong?" not "this is broken", no. "i'm trying to use X to do Y, here's how i'm trying to do that, and it's not working like i expected it to. what am i doing wrong?" in doing so, i assume the problem lies with me and my mistakes. it drops barriers immediately - both in myself and in others i'm asking of help - and forces me to be open minded about the solution. a simple phrase but remarkably effective.