You could use offensive, as is commonly done. Some ban offensive speech etc. I incidentally disagree with you completely. The blame is rightly on the victim. W

You could use offensive, as is commonly done. Some ban offensive speech etc. I incidentally disagree with you completely. The blame is rightly on the victim. What offends is usually personal, vague and often illogical. It's not reasonable to hold anyone responsible for doing perceived offensive things (provided they don't actually do anything otherwise illegal; I shouldn't have to point this out but I'll hedge).