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Y'know, I don't like the word "offend" or "offence". It puts the blame on the victim for "getting offended", it means the perpatrator didn't do anything wrong,
by rmc 13y ago
Y'know, I don't like the word "offend" or "offence". It puts the blame on the victim for "getting offended", it means the perpatrator didn't do anything wrong, it means the victim should just "grow a thicker skin".
I prefer "being an arsehole". Rather person A saying something that "caused offence", person A acted like an arsehole.
- derleth 13y agoIn a crazy way, this reminds me of a policy at a grade school I went to: Fight-free schools, where "It takes two to fight" was the mantra. Anyone caught fighting was in trouble; it didn't matter why, even if it was self-defense. "It takes two to fight" means that if anyone tried to fight you, you had to go to a teacher and report them. That was the only sanctioned remedy. It worked about as well as you'd imagine. I wonder what would happen if we applied the same logic to adult arguments and crimes.
- jpttsn 13y agoYou could use offensive, as is commonly done. Some ban offensive speech etc. I incidentally disagree with you completely. The blame is rightly on the victim. What offends is usually personal, vague and often illogical. It's not reasonable to hold anyone responsible for doing perceived offensive things (provided they don't actually do anything otherwise illegal; I shouldn't have to point this out but I'll hedge).