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Uh, I mean that I'm MTF. Full transition, including FFS, SRS, HRT, and a bunch of other TLAs. So is/was my roommate. That was ironically part of her problem too

Uh, I mean that I'm MTF. Full transition, including FFS, SRS, HRT, and a bunch of other TLAs. So is/was my roommate. That was ironically part of her problem too: most johns who want a trans woman are actually after a so-called 'shemale' (a no-op transsexual; i.e. someone who gets everything done but keeps the original plumbing.) Thanks for asking the question respectfully, I really do like explaining things to curious (although I caution you I'm almost alone in this; please don't make a habit of unsolicited questions to trans people! But for better or worse, I love to talk about myself, so let's use it to spread some understanding and peace for the holidays!)

nollidge 13y ago
I think lots of trans women who can't afford or otherwise don't get SRS would pretty strongly object to being referred to as "shemales".
- undoware 13y ago
  Yes, see, this is why writing benefits from having an editor. Facepalm. First draft: most johns are after a so-called 'shemale' Second draft (removing redundant quotes, following writing advice of Bill Zinsser) most johns are after a so-called shemale Third draft (shorten that sentence! Tighten it up!) most johns are after a shemale ....Fourth draft (after walking away and coming back to my writing, suddenly hearing it): most sex-industry customers are after an MtF no-op transsexual -- a 'shemale', in the derogatory parlance of the industry.
undoware 13y ago
Also note that 'shemale' is a derogatory term; I use it because it is, for better or for worse, the jargon of the sex industry, and that is what is relevant here. The polite term is 'no-op transsexual'.
- nightpool 13y ago
  You should still be able to edit your post, fyi. There should be a link on the same line as your name that says 'edit'. Editing gets disabled after a some amount of time, but IIRC it should be more then 1 hour.
- tomp 13y ago
  So which words should you use to differentiate between female-to-male no-op and male-to-female no-op (she-male and he-female respectively)? I'm partially asking because I'm curious as to what is the term preferred by the transsexuals, and partially because I feel that words are descriptive and hence void of emotional connotation, which should instead be inferred from the context in which the words are used.
  - rmc 13y ago
    The preferred language amoung trans people is: "The state of someone's genitals is none of your business unless the two of you are having sex".
ams6110 13y ago
You might want to spell it out because I have no idea what those acronyms mean.
- kej 13y ago
  MTF: Male to Female FFS: Facial feminization surgery SRS: Sex reassignment surgery HRT: Hormone replacement therapy TLA: Three letter acronym

nollidge 13y ago

I think lots of trans women who can't afford or otherwise don't get SRS would pretty strongly object to being referred to as "shemales".

undoware 13y ago
Yes, see, this is why writing benefits from having an editor. Facepalm. First draft: most johns are after a so-called 'shemale' Second draft (removing redundant quotes, following writing advice of Bill Zinsser) most johns are after a so-called shemale Third draft (shorten that sentence! Tighten it up!) most johns are after a shemale ....Fourth draft (after walking away and coming back to my writing, suddenly hearing it): most sex-industry customers are after an MtF no-op transsexual -- a 'shemale', in the derogatory parlance of the industry.

undoware 13y ago

Also note that 'shemale' is a derogatory term; I use it because it is, for better or for worse, the jargon of the sex industry, and that is what is relevant here. The polite term is 'no-op transsexual'.

nightpool 13y ago
You should still be able to edit your post, fyi. There should be a link on the same line as your name that says 'edit'. Editing gets disabled after a some amount of time, but IIRC it should be more then 1 hour.
tomp 13y ago
So which words should you use to differentiate between female-to-male no-op and male-to-female no-op (she-male and he-female respectively)? I'm partially asking because I'm curious as to what is the term preferred by the transsexuals, and partially because I feel that words are descriptive and hence void of emotional connotation, which should instead be inferred from the context in which the words are used.
- rmc 13y ago
  The preferred language amoung trans people is: "The state of someone's genitals is none of your business unless the two of you are having sex".

ams6110 13y ago

You might want to spell it out because I have no idea what those acronyms mean.

kej 13y ago
MTF: Male to Female FFS: Facial feminization surgery SRS: Sex reassignment surgery HRT: Hormone replacement therapy TLA: Three letter acronym