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Serious question: I've never quite understood the "what if you have a kid" argument. Is it the company's fault you had a kid? Why are they obligated to pay you
by Jemaclus 13y ago
Serious question: I've never quite understood the "what if you have a kid" argument. Is it the company's fault you had a kid? Why are they obligated to pay you more because you had a kid? If you were worth $100K and you negotiated for that, then that's what you make -- a kid has nothing to do with it.
Put another way, let's say we both make 100K in salary, and then, all other things being equal, you have a kid. Do you get a raise to 120K just because you had a kid? I didn't have a kid. Don't I get a raise too?
- nickonline 13y agoI think you're looking at this wrong. The kid is an example for why the budget gets tight, it could be anything (buying a house, deciding to pay off your credit card), you're correct the company has no obligation. Hence why you're asking, not informing that they'll pay you $20k more. "If you were worth $100K and you negotiated for that, then that's what you make" was true at the time of the initial negotiation. This is a separate negotiation, with a source "hey, company X will pay me 20% more" No, you don't deserve $20k more as you didn't ask for it, you might if you reopened negotiations.
- Jemaclus 13y agoFair enough. :)
- CodeMage 13y agoNo, you don't get a raise, because you didn't ask for it. The difference you should be focusing on, in your scenario, is not that I had a kid. It's that, for whatever reason, I renegotiated my salary. If you can do the same, then you get the same results. See, whereas you never quite understood the "what if you have a kid" argument, I never quite understood the "don't I deserve the same as that other guy" argument. The way I see it, the magical answer is always the same: maybe you do. Do something about it and you might be surprised.
- Jemaclus 13y agoFair enough. :)