I'm having a difficult time reconciling this article to what I actually read when I read Lean In...to the point where I don't think the author of this article h

I'm having a difficult time reconciling this article to what I actually read when I read Lean In...to the point where I don't think the author of this article has actually read the book. It bothered me enough that I bought the Kindle edition just now so I could cite what's actually in the book (I originally read it in hard copy form.) This quote from the book showcases the point Lean In is making: "A few years ago, I hosted a meeting for Treasury Secretary Tim Geithner at Facebook. We invited fifteen executives from across Silicon Valley for breakfast and a discussion about the economy. Secretary Geithner arrived with four members of his staff, two senior and two more junior, and we all gathered in our one nice conference room. After the usual milling around, I encouraged the attendees to help themselves to the buffet and take a seat. Our invited guests, mostly men, grabbed plates and food and sat down at the large conference table. Secretary Geithner’s team, all women, took their food last and sat in chairs off to the side of the room. I motioned for the women to come sit at the table, waving them over so they would feel welcomed. They demurred and remained in their seats. The four women had every right to be at this meeting, but because of their seating choice, they seemed like spectators rather than participants. I knew I had to say something. So after the meeting, I pulled them aside to talk. I pointed out that they should have sat at the table even without an invitation, but when publicly welcomed, they most certainly should have joined. At first, they seemed surprised, then they agreed. It was a watershed moment for me. A moment when I witnessed how an internal barrier can alter women’s behavior. A moment when I realized that in addition to facing institutional obstacles, women face a battle from within." In reading the book, I didn't find Sandberg accusing women of not doing enough--like this article seems to imply. Rather, she's pointing out barriers to women becoming leaders--barriers that we as women are probably not even conscious of. In that way, I found the book incredibly helpful. I should note I was predisposed to not like the book based on articles I'd read, but I am a voracious reader and I wanted to see for myself what Sandberg was saying. The book opened my eyes to small but significant behavior and language changes I could make to be taken more seriously as a leader, and in that way, I am grateful. If the article writer hasn't read the book, I respectfully ask her to before dishing out criticism--if there is a valid point in the book that she is inclined to criticize, then I will listen with an open mind. But as it stands right now, I don't find this criticism-without-citation productive.