Thanks. <3 Speaking as a male for a moment here: in my earlier years, the reason I would have had trouble saying something like "I see how hard it is" to a wom

Thanks. <3 Speaking as a male for a moment here: in my earlier years, the reason I would have had trouble saying something like "I see how hard it is" to a woman would have been because I was not 'man' enough to come out and say something like that. I'd have been afraid the woman might take it the wrong way, like as if I was belittling her. That's how a lot of us do feel, I bet. When I went back to school for software engineering and talked to my peers via chat late in the night, I really just found that a lot of them are broken. They have low self-esteem, they feel women aren't interested in them because they're nerdy. And so, their interactions with woman -- like walking on eggshells, trying not to embarrass themselves or get humiliated, be outed as "clumsy-with-women", they behave in a rigid way that could possibly be interpreted as being cold and mean to women. I really do think you're onto something here. If more people took the initiative in communicating feelings of care and love, things would improve.