>What I wanted, deep in my heart, was for someone to say, “Yes, I see this is difficult for you – I see hearing that comment was hard for you because you are wo

>What I wanted, deep in my heart, was for someone to say, “Yes, I see this is difficult for you – I see hearing that comment was hard for you because you are worried about the sexist implications, and it was a challenge to maintain composure in front of the client.” So she wanted us to assume she was a fragile woman, instead of a woman able to take critique (as the comment about emotional attachment to code is)? Not that I'm saying she is, but, that's how I would interpret what she just said. Personally, I think these matters could be resolved bybetter communication with coworkers. They need to speak up if they feel uncomfortable in their environment. We can't read your thoughts, and, that goes for other males aswell obviously, but, that doesn't seem to be much of an issue. As for men trying to impress women, I would very much say this isn't limited to tech. Maybe tech ppl more easily take a liking to their female coworkers, but it's entirely natural to want to impress someone you like.