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It's not such a bad thing to say... in front of a client, sure, but in private it can be valid criticism.

• moron4hire 13y ago
  The entire point of being polite to people is to try to think about how they would feel given your actions and to not try to make them feel unpleasant. You don't just run off at the mouth, oblivious to the impact your words might have on people. So, given that we all know we live in a society that treats women as "overly emotional", how could asking a woman if she was emotionally attached to her code not be inconsiderate? Still, I cannot imagine any situation in which "were you emotionally attached to your code" is not a passive aggressive statement. Why not avoid accusations entirely? Why not say something like, "what are your motivations for not rewriting this code?" Let them tell you, "because I spent a lot of time on it." That would tell you exactly the same thing and it wouldn't involve a passive-aggressive, accusatory tone.