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He is asking a group of people who have a greater-than average chance to have been in a similar situation in the past. Benefiting from the experience of others
by TrevorJ 17y ago
He is asking a group of people who have a greater-than average chance to have been in a similar situation in the past. Benefiting from the experience of others seems like a wise thing to do.
- uptown 17y agoThat's exactly my point. When he finds a woman that doesn't leave him questioning what to do, he'll know without asking.
- TrevorJ 17y agoUnless you've never made relationship choices that you later regret, I think asking for advice is a valid and important thing to do.
- joechung 17y agoOr if you've always made relationship choices that you later regret.
- JoelPM 17y agoUptown is right on the money. It's like marriage - people say that you'll know when you know. If you're not sure if you know, then you don't know.
- stcredzero 17y agoLots of people are sure, and sure they're sure, and they still get divorced in droves.
- tolmasky 17y agoThis is pure fantasy and not at all representative of the real world problems and considerations that go into making a working relationship. The same couple that "just knows" they are great for each other during great times will be unsure if circumstances outside of their control lead to more difficult times. Doubt is a natural and healthy response when conflicting responsibilities clash in life, and should not be interpreted as some sort of signal that there is no "magic" or that it isn't "destiny".
- JoelPM 17y agoI don't believe in "magic" or "destiny" - that's not what I'm referring to here. I'm also not talking about knowing you're "great" for another person. I'm talking about knowing you're _committed_ to another person. When you know you're _committed_ to another person you don't have to wonder if French lessons should go, or the startup should go, or the girl should go. In theory I could know that I'm great for 314 different people, but that's a lot different than knowing that I'm committed to one. This isn't fantasy and it's extremely representative of what goes into making a working relationship.
- mattmaroon 17y agoYou watch too many Sandra Bullock movies. Life doesn't really work that way.
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- zimbabwe 17y agoSpeak for yourself. I know the precious few people I'd give up some of my ambitions for. There's never a soundtrack involved but the quiet confidence remains.