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> Plus I have a family to which I have to tend to. Often they feel I'm just not spending time with them. Working 40 hours week plus 5-6 hours afterwards every
by flurdy 13y ago
> Plus I have a family to which I have to tend to. Often they feel I'm just not spending time with them.
Working 40 hours week plus 5-6 hours afterwards every day does not mix with having a family, or especially not if you got kids. Maybe if you got a 5 minute commute you can do some hours but not 5-6.
> I also see many other smart successful people putting ridiculous efforts day in and out to win. And its in every profession.
And then there are the really smart people who realise they are most effective by not over doing the hours, but maximise the hours they do put in. You still have to put a good amount of effort as few fat sportsmen are successful, but also they know not to over train (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overtraining https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overtraining) and reduce risk of injury.
I also refer to another recent HN article (http://mikehadlow.blogspot.co.uk/2013/12/are-your-programmers-working-hard-or.html http://mikehadlow.blogspot.co.uk/2013/12/are-your-programmer...) and its linked book (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Mathematician's_Apology http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Mathematician's_Apology).
- kamaal 13y ago>>does not mix with having a family Well that's the most stressful part. Its stressful because you need to be surrounded around by people who can appreciate what you are doing and why you are doing it. Either way what is I see is, and this is the case with nearly every one. Everyone's family wants a rich dad/husband/brother/wife/sister/mom, but no one really has a clue of what it takes to get there- Until they've done it themselves. I guess this is the reason why people marry in the same professions. To an extent it helps the spouse understand what the other person is going through. Also from the blog post you linked to: "I would submit that the appearance of hard work is often an indication of failure." Sorry but the author totally lost it when he wrote that.
- Nursie 13y ago>> Everyone's family wants a rich dad/husband/brother/wife/sister/mom, but no one really has a clue of what it takes to get there- Until they've done it themselves. Some would rather have one that is present.
- onedev 13y agoOuch.
- markyc 13y ago>> Everyone's family wants a rich dad/husband/brother/wife/sister/mom, but no one really has a clue of what it takes to get there- Until they've done it themselves are you really willing to bet everything on that very debatable claim? Money makes little difference after the basics are covered, and the basics are not what the soap operas would have you think. Please, spend time with your children. Take the hit, spend the next 10-15 years in a dead-end job if you absolutely must, but come home after that and spend time with them. Not judging, just urging you to rethink the position that your kids need your money more than they need you. Peace!
- andy_adams 13y ago>> Everyone's family wants a rich dad/husband/brother/wife/sister/mom Just to echo some of the other comments above, this is absolutely BS. How many kids, when they grow up, say "I wish dad worked overtime so we could be rich". Compare those kids to those who say "I wish my dad was around more, but he was always working". To think your children will be disappointed when they're not rich...well, you're living in a self-inflated bubble. I hope you come out of it.
- aianus 13y agoI wish my parents worked harder so we would be rich... would make my life a hell of a lot easier and more fun now.