It's not that binary. Something can be a "secret" and yet you have to tell some people, but not others. What if your "secret" is that you're gay and you're in

It's not that binary. Something can be a "secret" and yet you have to tell some people, but not others. What if your "secret" is that you're gay and you're in an evangelical hardcore religious family and you want to get out? How do you talk to a help group far away without telling your parents? Is "I'm gay" a secret? You have to tell the help group, but don't want to tell your parents. "Keep it in your head and tell no-one" just doesn't work then.