Surely you don't begrudge them wanting/aspiring to something better. I presume you mean that if they expect to have the trappings of success without putting in

Surely you don't begrudge them wanting/aspiring to something better. I presume you mean that if they expect to have the trappings of success without putting in any effort then you have something to say. But even then, that is merely an expectation that will remain unfulfilled. If a group of people actually receives the trappings of success without effort then, I agree with you, but this is not born out by everyday experience. The poor and disadvantaged are comparatively, well, poor and disadvantaged when compared to the successful. So, if my anecdotal experience matches reality then the problem becomes, "how best to help?".