No you don't get it. When you ask someone who is part of an underrepresented minority to "work it out" on an issue of gender discrimination, you are putting th

No you don't get it. When you ask someone who is part of an underrepresented minority to "work it out" on an issue of gender discrimination, you are putting the onus on the person who was acted upon to resolve the situation. If you're mugged, do you think the police should ask you and the mugger to meet and "work it out?" The person who committed the offense is the person who should be held responsible. this isn't a matter of opinion or a "cat fight" and your response is exactly why things aren't changing in tech. Most women have encountered a sexist at some point or another, tried to get it fixed and been told to "work it out." How exactly do you "work it out" with someone who is fundamentally convinced your issues are irrelevant?