I'm really really confused. A cool blogger can tell a woman to "eat my dick" and get a positive story in Huffington Post. The only issue raised on HN is his t

I'm really really confused. A cool blogger can tell a woman to "eat my dick" and get a positive story in Huffington Post. The only issue raised on HN is his tweeting of her conversation, not his sexual harassment. But a guy refuses a pull request that changes "him" to "them" and there is huge uproar? Can someone please explain feminism to me? How do I get from "feminism is by definition the belief that women are people" to this?