I'm not trying to minimize your pain, nor am I trying to defend the company in question. However, in my experience, the probability of being given an honest ans

I'm not trying to minimize your pain, nor am I trying to defend the company in question. However, in my experience, the probability of being given an honest answer for why you didn't get the job is almost zero. Looking for a job is an all around horrible experience and flippant answers that in no way match your interview experience make the process all that much worse. If you need someone to talk to, I've been exactly where you are and my email address is on my profile. I don't know if I can be of much help, but I'd be glad to commiserate with you. Or, alternately, if by some stroke of luck, you're located somewhere near me, the first few rounds are on me.