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I weep for the rampant explosion of the use of the word "creepy" in the last decade. Someone leering at your ass, or asking if you want to go back to their room

by benched 13y ago

I weep for the rampant explosion of the use of the word "creepy" in the last decade. Someone leering at your ass, or asking if you want to go back to their room to watch fetish porn, is not the same thing as being socially awkward. It's as if people have collectively realized that awkwardness can be a little like figurative social 'death', but then instead of promoting discourse about how to forgive this triviality, everybody says 'No, it might signal something! It's death! We must avoid death!'

parennoob 13y ago
Fight it. I do. Whenever someone (stupidly, IMHO) uses "creepy" to refer to a socially awkward guy or girl (in my experience, it is mostly women, and sometimes men who use this epithet about socially awkward men), I generally point out that they are essentially engaging in the same sort of "ugh, he's not cool, let's get away from him" dance that they did in high school. Also the author seems a good candidate for being socially awkward "creepy" person herself. Examples: - #6 "Don’t talk about work. You can of course compliment someone on something they’ve done if you want." Wait what? I thought you were supposed to be networking -- why can't you talk about work? Are you supposed to talk about something personal they have done? Remember that people's careers are often crucified for making "unprofessional" remarks cause the person they were talking to (or the person behind them they were not talking to) can tweet about it or suchlike. - #7 "I definitely find the process of exchanging cards to be incredibly awkward." Um, "Here's my card". If the other person takes it, fine. Otherwise don't take it personally. Looks to me as if the author is projecting advice for dealing with her own specific set of social neuroses as being "non-creepy networking at a party".
Dirlewanger 13y ago
Just like the recent degenerative and borderline retarded phrase ("Didn't get any work done today because Internet!") rearing its shit-covered head into modern casual diction, I loathe how people as a whole have ascribed warped connotations to seemingly innocuous behaviors. Scrolling down your Facebook page past the fold to see your previous posts? You're a creeper. No way out of it. It's no longer just looking at someone's profile.

by benched 13y ago

parennoob 13y ago

Fight it. I do. Whenever someone (stupidly, IMHO) uses "creepy" to refer to a socially awkward guy or girl (in my experience, it is mostly women, and sometimes men who use this epithet about socially awkward men), I generally point out that they are essentially engaging in the same sort of "ugh, he's not cool, let's get away from him" dance that they did in high school. Also the author seems a good candidate for being socially awkward "creepy" person herself. Examples: - #6 "Don’t talk about work. You can of course compliment someone on something they’ve done if you want." Wait what? I thought you were supposed to be networking -- why can't you talk about work? Are you supposed to talk about something personal they have done? Remember that people's careers are often crucified for making "unprofessional" remarks cause the person they were talking to (or the person behind them they were not talking to) can tweet about it or suchlike. - #7 "I definitely find the process of exchanging cards to be incredibly awkward." Um, "Here's my card". If the other person takes it, fine. Otherwise don't take it personally. Looks to me as if the author is projecting advice for dealing with her own specific set of social neuroses as being "non-creepy networking at a party".

Dirlewanger 13y ago

Just like the recent degenerative and borderline retarded phrase ("Didn't get any work done today because Internet!") rearing its shit-covered head into modern casual diction, I loathe how people as a whole have ascribed warped connotations to seemingly innocuous behaviors. Scrolling down your Facebook page past the fold to see your previous posts? You're a creeper. No way out of it. It's no longer just looking at someone's profile.