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It is interesting to read your comment. Curious if you know married couples who have to be apart and how this affects their marriage? When both husband and wif
by tostitos1979 13y ago
It is interesting to read your comment.
Curious if you know married couples who have to be apart and how this affects their marriage? When both husband and wife have specialized jobs, it seems the choices are to compromise on one person's career or too live apart for at least some periods of time.
- rayiner 13y agoI don't know any married couples that live apart, but I know at least one very long relationship that broke up because people with two specialized jobs couldn't make their careers work in the same city. But yeah, the constant tension compromising one person's career or living apart for substantial periods of time. This is especially true as competition becomes more national. 10 years ago I would've said that someone from Pennsylvania would be crazy to go to Stanford over CMU or Penn, assuming they wanted to work on the east coast. But today I probably wouldn't say that.
- saidajigumi 13y ago> When both husband and wife have specialized jobs There's a name for this, which I first heard in academia, regarding couples who both hold a Ph.D.: "the two-body problem". It was usually applied when both sought academic jobs, but the concept applies to any sufficiently specialized hiring criteria. Pretty much all the solutions and compromises that you might imagine can and do happen. Being apart is pretty strenuous on a relationship, but some folks manage it for a time. Sometimes universities or other employers will hire both on simply in order to get a star candidate. Some manage to "solve" the problem -- landing satisfactory co-located positions on their own merits.