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Thanks for the feedback. I agree, relationships are the priority, but I can then extend the phrasing of the question to ask: are academic relationships more imp

Thanks for the feedback. I agree, relationships are the priority, but I can then extend the phrasing of the question to ask: are academic relationships more important than their industrial counterparts? I have engaged with most of the professors in the department (it was actually through one of them that I got the job), but almost without exception (it seems that) they are neither driven nor motivated and only a tiny percent of them have had any academic success. Outside of CS I am a focused musician and graphic designer and I like to use that as both an escape and as diversification, so I'm not too worried about ending up as a boring Jack. Somewhat due to my poor wording, it seems like people got the impression that I would be dropping out (or giving up on my degree), this is not the case. I just need to know how important it is that I achieve a good grade? Is it worth the sacrifice of job experience and possibly the position within the company?

wallflower 13y ago
The true test of relationships are when something is at stake. It is does not matter what realm they lie in for your life. So my revised advice is to pursue relationships that go beyond superficial friendliness. The company you are working for falls in that area. You seem to be a renaissance individual with diverse interests. That is very good to hear. Be open to everything. Much of success (and its sometimes corollary -,financial success) is due to how much leadership you take on - which runs the spectrum from being a senior developer on a project to the guy (or girl) responsible for all software development projects or being your own business owner. The beauty of business is that if you start one - you will be exposed to all aspects. The flip side is working for a quasi-stable company will pigeon hole you into a slot - for that is how they operate. So to answer your question - I have had many project-based relationships. When the project ended, the relationship ended. However, in a few cases, I remained friends, however loose, with a few individuals. The answer to your question is to try to work with and be around with individuals you want to be around with. And do not let the work be the only definition for the relationship. Truely extroverted connected people have multiple circles of friends with concentric circles of trust and intimacy. For example, this means, many people might want to have some of their time but they get to choose who they spend time with. And having known a few of these successful individuals (who I need to clarify are not always extroverted - but passionate for their cause), they make you feel important when you meet with them. So in closing of this ramble, do not be biased who you spend time with - but make the most of it - and if you do not like each other, it is natural and ok to drift.

wallflower 13y ago

The true test of relationships are when something is at stake. It is does not matter what realm they lie in for your life. So my revised advice is to pursue relationships that go beyond superficial friendliness. The company you are working for falls in that area. You seem to be a renaissance individual with diverse interests. That is very good to hear. Be open to everything. Much of success (and its sometimes corollary -,financial success) is due to how much leadership you take on - which runs the spectrum from being a senior developer on a project to the guy (or girl) responsible for all software development projects or being your own business owner. The beauty of business is that if you start one - you will be exposed to all aspects. The flip side is working for a quasi-stable company will pigeon hole you into a slot - for that is how they operate. So to answer your question - I have had many project-based relationships. When the project ended, the relationship ended. However, in a few cases, I remained friends, however loose, with a few individuals. The answer to your question is to try to work with and be around with individuals you want to be around with. And do not let the work be the only definition for the relationship. Truely extroverted connected people have multiple circles of friends with concentric circles of trust and intimacy. For example, this means, many people might want to have some of their time but they get to choose who they spend time with. And having known a few of these successful individuals (who I need to clarify are not always extroverted - but passionate for their cause), they make you feel important when you meet with them. So in closing of this ramble, do not be biased who you spend time with - but make the most of it - and if you do not like each other, it is natural and ok to drift.