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>>Do you think that the wife, who had spent the last n years raising eight children, had any skills that would get her a job bringing in enough money to keep bo

by kamaal 13y ago

>>Do you think that the wife, who had spent the last n years raising eight children, had any skills that would get her a job bringing in enough money to keep both of them going? You make it look like a profit-loss statement, in which its acceptable to walk out of a deal if its not profitable. If that's the standard in a relationship, do you know the most dangerous part? Marriage doesn't make any sense for any man from that perspective. Marriage helps women more than it helps men. The man works all his life, like this guy worked 17 hr/day every day. Only to find when things get a little low, the wife will go to another man. He might as well not get married, keep the money from his work for himself.

girvo 13y ago
Indeed. A lot of men are coming to this realisation, and a lot of women are too ("Man Up!"). It'll be interesting to see how society handles it.
cafard 13y ago
I replied to a comment by someone describing himself as 23 years old. I have been married longer than that, and thought it not impossible I might know more about marriage than he does. I wished to raise a couple of points; I don't know whether repetition and amplification will help, but here goes: 1. Marriages fail. Over, as the epigram says "Nothing of importance:/Nothing but money, sex, and self-importance." 2. The writer judged that he could not keep a roof over his family's head; he moved to his van, his wife in with a couple of their daughters. In my view, her primary responsibility at that point was to the well-being of the children, and she seems to have made a sensible decision. Do you know that the older daughters could have accommodated two sisters, a mother and a father? If not, on what grounds do you blame her? I really don't see what profitable deals have to do with this. 3. 17 hr/day. Yes, in the job he dreamed of, writing for a sitcom. I've worked with people working 17 to 17 hours a day, half of it cleaning motels and the other half not much more entertaining or glamorous. The two cases do not seem comparable. 4. "A little low ... another man". They had no house, and the wife was long separated when she met someone else, back in Germany.

by kamaal 13y ago

girvo 13y ago

Indeed. A lot of men are coming to this realisation, and a lot of women are too ("Man Up!"). It'll be interesting to see how society handles it.

cafard 13y ago

I replied to a comment by someone describing himself as 23 years old. I have been married longer than that, and thought it not impossible I might know more about marriage than he does. I wished to raise a couple of points; I don't know whether repetition and amplification will help, but here goes: 1. Marriages fail. Over, as the epigram says "Nothing of importance:/Nothing but money, sex, and self-importance." 2. The writer judged that he could not keep a roof over his family's head; he moved to his van, his wife in with a couple of their daughters. In my view, her primary responsibility at that point was to the well-being of the children, and she seems to have made a sensible decision. Do you know that the older daughters could have accommodated two sisters, a mother and a father? If not, on what grounds do you blame her? I really don't see what profitable deals have to do with this. 3. 17 hr/day. Yes, in the job he dreamed of, writing for a sitcom. I've worked with people working 17 to 17 hours a day, half of it cleaning motels and the other half not much more entertaining or glamorous. The two cases do not seem comparable. 4. "A little low ... another man". They had no house, and the wife was long separated when she met someone else, back in Germany.